When addiction enters your life, it can turn your world upside down. If you are the parent of a son or daughter living with addiction, it feels like a nightmare. Siblings, spouses, other family members, and friends, all suffer in different ways. 


For years, I just wanted my daughter Jamie's addiction to stop. I wanted her to quit, so my life could go back to "normal." I needed to get off the Roller Coaster From Hell.


What we are all looking for is the magic answer, but there isn't one. Those living with the addiction Beast can and do get clean, but we are not in charge of their path to recovery.


The biggest problem (besides the obvious stress, heartbreak, and disappointment) is that we begin to lose ourselves. We isolate or become pulled down by the sad stories of others. We can even wind up in full self-destruct mode.


We yell, scream, accuse, enable, make excuses, keep secrets, spend money we don't have, beg, plead and guilt-trip.


It often comes to a place where our happiness and sense of purpose have landed squarely on the person who is already carrying the massive burden of living with an addiction Beast. Now, we have compounded the problem with our own loss of self. 


It is time to learn how to live again. You can be happy, even when someone you love is hurting. You can find yourself after you have given up on you. You can reclaim your confidence and self-worth.


You MUST find a way to Stand Up & Fight for your life. It is the best thing you can do for everyone, including your loved one living with addiction. Be the leader that demonstrates it is possible to stand up in your darkest days.


You are not alone, and you don't have to live in a world surrounded by addiction. You are MORE than all of this.




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    Everyone joins the same tribe, but the FREE Course You get with Membership is different depending upon the path you take. You are MORE than the addiction that has devastated your family, and we are ALL in this thing called "life" together, so we all need to stand together through all of life's ups and downs.


You are Not Alone

Dianne Chatelain

Alexandria, VA

"If I said that my life had changed since reading Valerie's books and joining this group, it would be an understatement. I felt very alone. I was depressed & didn't even want to get out of bed every day. I don't feel alone anymore and I finally feel like I have a purpose."

Sarah Earle

Summerville, SC

"Only a few months ago, I was a wreck! Valerie's Nine Actions have allowed me to put myself first and live again. Her resources are amazing and the Tribe is a special group who connect & support each other. Best decision I have made for myself in years other than reading all of her books."


Donna Bova

Madison, CT

"Finding Valerie & the Tribe has been one of the biggest blessings of my life! Some days are harder than others but with Valerie's books & belonging to the Still Standing Tribe has given me my life back. I will keep doing them until the day I die."



Dawn Ward

Las Vegas, NV

"When I found Valerie & her material, I was at a point where I thought, really – is this what life is all about? I felt as if I had nothing to look forward to and I could not believe I was going through it again. Thank you so much for the Still Standing Tribe & for caring enough to persevere."

Monette Hopkins

Circleville, OH

"I was in sabotage mode & didn't think I deserved better. Thank God for Valerie.  I no longer feel self-pity. And, I bring The Still Standing Tribe teaching into my therapy. My therapist said, I have seen such a change in you; you took a stand back in August, and you haven't stopped!"

Jeri Griess

Syracuse, UT

"I didn’t want to be sad and miserable all the time, and walk around like a zombie just going through the motions of life. I found Valerie & the Still Standing Tribe & now  I immerse myself in my recovery."

Meet Valerie

Courage Expert, Speaker, Author, Mom of an Addict


Valerie Silveira is a woman of unwavering strength who uses her battle scars to help others find their courage. Through the devastation of losing her only daughter, Jamie, over and over, to the addiction Beast, and ultimately to an unsolved murder, Valerie has learned how to stand up and fight for happiness, peace, hope, and purpose. 


She uses her journey and decades of experience teaching, training and guiding, to empower others to stand up and fight for their lives.


Valerie KNOWS firsthand how to fight through incredible adversity and she can guide you - whatever it is you are wanting to do, achieve, or become.


The best thing you can do for everyone, including your loved one living with addiction, is to Stand Up & Fight for your life. Show them it is possible. ~ Valerie

Found this page, but you don't have addiction in the family? Join the Tribe anyway - we have coaching on all sorts of life topics! It is NOT specifically for those living with addiction, but Valerie has added coaching for families because she knows how hard it is to feel like part of the world. Learn more HERE.